Top 5 Coping Strategies: THE VIDEO

Hey y’all it’s been a while aint it?! Well, I started the whole YouTube channel and I am humbled to say in the 4 weeks I’ve had it, over 60 of you have subscribed! Holy moly! I’ll be doing as many posts as I can (with better transitions and yorkshire style outtakes). If you love a good Yorkshire accent and some chitchat about mental health and wellbeing, then take a gander.

Here’s my Top 5 Coping Strategies Video. You can also check out the written blog post I did from a while ago.

 

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Mental Health Is A Part Of Us All- Yes, Us All!

We have physical health, and we have mental health. It should be quite simple, right? Well, it feels like common sense- that our health is us as a whole, that we need to take care of our bodies and minds as one. Then how come mental health isn’t spoken about as much? Sometimes our mental health even comes with physical symptoms. Chest pains, loss of appetite, migraines, fatigue etc. It’s all linked, and our mind controls everything too! Ever get a tummy pain or a headache, and the more you think about how much it hurts- the more you feel it hurting somehow? When we focus on our pains or aches with our thoughts, the more our pains and aches control our thinking, our ability to concentrate and even our mobility as a person. Well, it all loops back to our thoughts and our mental state. This is our mental health. Whether you know it or not, you have mental health. Just like we all breathe in oxygen, have bones, skin, as well as blood flowing through our veins. It’s a part of us, and we have to take care of it.

Having a healthy mind is just as important as a health body

The next time you see someone in the street, or on their way to work, even in your workplace- just remember they have mental health. We aaallll have mental health! You are not alone, we all go through something- and you deserve to be ok. Every single person on this big huge rock we call our home has a mental state, even if we don’t talk about it. Our health is part of us all, whether we can see it or not.

Take care of yourself you, and keep real!

A list of helplines are on my blog, and if you feel you’d like to read more on mental health, type ‘mental health’ into the search bar ❤

Winter Blues – How To Beat It!

Hey folks! I hope this post finds you well! It’s been a week or so since my last post- but I have much planned to fill this blog up with some lil’ tips and posts full of mental wellness and motivation!

It’s mid November already! Can you believe it?! Most folk struggle more with their mental health (as well as physical too!) in the winter months. However, despite this ongoing problem that quite a lot of us experience, with a mild form of ‘winter blues’, some of us also experience SAD this time of year. Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD, or otherwise known as summertime sadness or seasonal depression) is a form of depression that here in the UK, is said to affect about 1 in 15 people. There are many forms of depression, which can find here on Rethink. Symptoms for SAD generally appear between September and November, and continue until March or April, when there may be a sudden burst of energy and activity wpid-img_20151022_220531.jpgaccompanying the longer, brighter spring and summer days. Symptoms can include lethargy, loss of concentration, sleep problems, anxiety and social problems (please find more information over at the Mental Health Foundation)

We all feel down now and then, but winter for some can be quite a difficult time, with or without a diagnosed mental health problem. We all have to take care of ourselves the best we can ❤ Here are 3 key tips to keep you going, and to cope with the longer days and colder nights
. Be safe folks, and stay well.

  1. Try get outside in the daylight if you can. Even if its that small lunch break at work, soak up as much natural daylight as possible. If not outside, sit near the windows if possible and chose colours in your room that are pale to reflect light from outside. ❤
  2. Keep warm. Wrap yourself up with all your jumpers, scarves and hats- like the warmest little burrito possible! Hot drinks and food will also fill that wonderful tummy up of yours. Whether that be hot chocolate, green tea, broths, soups- you name it! Eat up and stay snug.
  3. Stay active. I know it’s cold and very chilly on the bones- but you gotta move about! Whether that be running up and down the stairs a few times, doing yoga, going for a walk round your house, or doing some stretches. One hour’s walk in the middle of the day can be just as helpful as light treatment or therapy.

The Art of Happiness

Here’s a quote I wanted to share with you from the Dalai Lama. Hope you all have a wonderful day! ❤

“Sometimes when I meet old friends, it reminds me how quickly time passes. And it makes me wonder if we’ve utilized our time properly or not. Proper utilization of time is so important. While we have this body, and especially this amazing human brain, I think every minute is something precious. Our day-to-day existence is very much alive with hope, although there is no guarantee of our future. There is no guarantee that tomorrow at this time we will be here. But we are working for that purely on the basis of hope. So, we need to make the best use of our time. I believe that the proper utilization of time is this: if you can, serve other people, other sentient beings. If not, at least refrain from harming them. I think that is the whole basis of my philosophy.

So, let us reflect what is truly of value in life, what gives meaning to our lives, and set our priorities on the basis of that. The purpose of our life needs to be positive. We weren’t born with the purpose of causing trouble, harming others. For our life to be of value, I think we must develop basic good human qualities—warmth, kindness, compassion. Then our life becomes meaningful and more peaceful—happier.”

How Do I Stay Content With What I Have?

Good Morning my lovelies! How are you? Today I thought to do a post on being content. I think sometimes all we need is to feel good with the things we have and how we feel right now, rather than striving for this happiness we see, but cannot reach. This is a nod towards our consumerist culture, as we feel we need to obtain new shiny things, in order to having-it-allfeel that sense of content. Happiness comes from within my beauties! But we cannot help but feel like we could be that little bit happier if we achieved our goals, or bought that new bag from the autumn/winter collection…(As you can tell, I totally relate to this).

So how do we stay content with what we have? Here’s 3 things to think about.

  • Try not to compare yourself to what others have. What would happen if you had all the fortunes in the world? Would that make you feel happier? I very much doubt it. You have worked and earned your fortunes with an honest heart, and you can buy whatever you wish with it. You don’t have to ‘keep up with the Jones” as the saying goes.
  • Be in the moment. Think about what you have and what you’re grateful for. Where are you sitting or standing right now? You’re in this moment, reading this post! Life is happening now, so have a little think about what got you here.
  • Love your job/career path. No matter how much you earn, or how much you feel like you’re not on the right path in your career, if you love your job- then why would you change it? Being content in your job or career is the perfect way in staying content. Find something that interests you and it will make you feel so flippin’ good! Ask yourself some questions about your career or job choice. Maybe you’ll have to accept the fact that a job with less pay comes with greater fulfilment.

❤ much love folks, and as always- keep real! x

#ElleInspire

wpid-img_20150907_215747.jpgHello beauties! How you all doing? Today, I thought to review some of my favourite #ElleInspire articles so far. I’m an avid reader and subscriber to Elle Magazine here in England, and what I love most are the #ElleInspire articles in there (and of course, the fashion!)- it gives the readers a wonderful sense of empowerment, with an authentic look at self esteem and confidence in women. It aint’ just a fashion magazine. Elle is a wonderful monthly read for not only the fashion forward, but forward thinkers too.

Throughout the year, we’ve seen movements in feminism, sexuality and gay marriage. 2015 has definitely been the year for shifting the world in an era of openness and change. We’ve seen the HeForShe Campaign fronted by the beautiful Emma Watson forELLE-UK-May-2015-Cover-Rebel-Wilson-Main gender equality, Gay Marriage being legalised nationwide in the US plus legalisation in Ireland, and the sexuality movement of ‘fluidity’ and the rejection of labels. What an age to be living in huh?!

February’s issue of Elle noted Elizabeth Palmer as ‘Woman of the Month’, recognising her as an inspirational Journalist who has covered nearly every major conflict zone in Europe and the Middle East. She tells readers to follow their natural ability, and shares her story of not having a definite road. It inspires, and she is a perfect example of ambition and making your own luck. You can do it too!

May’s issue of Elle fronted the ever wonderful Rebel Wilson with the hashtag #BeMoreRebel frontier. An intelligent, body confident woman who is ridiculously funny. Now who wouldn’t want her on the front page?! She has worked her butt off to get to where she wants be (with a Degree in Law & Arts and a former Rotary International Youth Ambassador for Australia) and there aint no stopping her! Like Elle quotes, ‘She is proof that hard work pays off and proof that once you find your voice, you can keep it and make it work for you.’

June’s issue of Elle noted Elaine West as ‘Woman of the Month’, who is the first woman to be promoted to the rank of Air Vice-Marshal, the most senior ranking female officer in the British Armed Forces. Her interview is a lovely one to read, that when things don’t go your way, move forward and learn from your experiences. She worked her way through the ranks, having been in 19 different roles throughout her career and kept going ❤

October’s issue of Elle fronts Miley Cyrus, and the exploration of sexuality and ‘gender fluidity’. It alsojIyfRftH has a beautiful spread of ’30 smart women under 30′. Now, it aint just the academically smart, it’s the downright empowering- women are out there getting to where they want to be and from all various backgrounds and childhoods. You, yes you, are the same. YOU can achieve whatever you dream, inspire and create. If you truly want it, you can go and get it ❤ It’s ok to doubt yourself, it’s natural to feel overwhelmed or afraid. But if you want it, make it happen.

2015 has been an incredible year for women, and for everyone so far. What a beautiful and moving year, and so many months ahead that could bring such joy to the world! Even though sometimes when you read these magazines, it is so easy to say ‘I wish I could be like that’, ‘I wish I was her’ and ‘Why don’t I look like that?’. However, there are such lovely articles in there saying to women all over the world ‘Stop comparing yourself to the pages, because being you is inspiring in itself and you can be whatever you want to be’.

I think we need more of that in this world. When we start comparing, we get so caught up in it and steals all our self-worth. You are beautiful…yes I’m talking to you! Be kind to yourself and do your own thaang. I believe in you.

Mental Wellness Essentials #2

Hello you! I hope the week so far has been good to you! It’s the middle of the week (or there abouts!), so here’s some mental wellness essentials to get you through ❤

Sometimes the beginning of the week can mega drag. First day back to work or whatever you’re getting up to, has that feel about it- you just wish for a day in bed! Keep that head up you, it’s gonna be ok ❤

Let’s start with some little tips to maintain your flow for the week.

  • Eat well – Food, as tasty as it comes- can improve how you feel! I’m not telling you knock back some weird tea, only eat salad or buy organic; eating well does have it’s benefits. The more colour with your meals, the better. Takeaways and quick microwave meals are, let’s face it, the lazy way to fill that lovely tummy of yours. Try get out of the habit and go for something new. If you fancy cooking up a quick little storm, I suggest signing up to ‘Thug Kitchen’- great recipes via email…and vegan too! Find some recipes here.
  • Ask for help – It feels tricky to admit that you might need a hand, but there is no harm in it. wpid-img_20150805_201214.jpgIf you do not ask, you shall not receive. It’s as simple as that. Pluck up the courage to seek some guidance or ask a friend for help. Take a well deserved break and ring up a loved one to have a chat.
  • Be a lil’ bit selfish! – You’re here, you’re breathing- it’s your life and you can do whatever you wish with it! Eat that bar of chocolate…go on! Do something for yourself out of your day. It doesn’t just have to be work, eat, sleep and repeat. Catch that film you wanna see, ask a friend out for a drink- do what makes you happy. You can spread that happiness with others too ❤ take that break!
  • Meditate – Some may think it’s quite the hippy thing to do, and over-think the whole meditation/ mindfulness way of relaxation, but taking 10 minutes out of your day to focus on yourself, can really improve how you feel about your day. Sit comfortably, relax your body and place your hands where you feel is natural. Close your eyes, count your breath in ‘1’ and breath out ‘2’- right up to 10. Repeat this and just notice what’s going on for you in your body. Slight headache? Bit of tension in your shoulders? Whatever it is, just notice it. Be gentle with yourself. Sometimes your body tells you things when you are a bit stressed. Listen to body. 

❤ as always, keep real and be kind to yourself .